How to Write a Maid of Honour’s Speech

How to write a maid of honour’s speech

Writing a maid of honour’s speech is simpler than it sounds. So rule one, don’t panic. The more you panic and fret about making mistakes the more likely you are to make them!

With a little help from this sheet, and your own stories from your pasts and imagination, you will have the best maid of honour’s speech possible.

There are two main points in a maid of honour’s speech. Firstly you are, through your own knowledge and experience, going to tell those who know the bride less, what she is like. And secondly you have to tell everyone how perfect she is for her new husband, and vice versa. Like the best man would do with his speech. So how do you do this?

Firstly, what she is like. You have to imagine two or three times that stand out in your memory that involve you and the bride. Were they funny? Do they show a soft or gentle side to her? Or are they of any hidden talents that she may have? These are the things people should be told, as not every one will get to see the other side to her. And as you are her best friend, you know her better than anyone else; you should be able to come up with some good ones.

Secondly, the story of her relationship with her husband. For this you need to try and remember a few parts of their relationship. For instance, when and where they met, their first date. That kind of thing. This will give those who don’t know the full story of how they met a better insight. For this part you should give details, and go into a little depth. But remember your entire speech needs to be over 4 minutes but under 8 minutes. That way you give enough information, but do not waffle on and make the speech boring.

As well as the two points above here are a couple more ideas that will break up the speech. Try using a few jokes, especially at the beginning to break the ice, and at the very end. Never insult anyone. This will go down really badly.

And finally the toasts.

At the end of your speech it is a good idea to raise a toast to the bride and groom. This should be short and sweet. For example, ladies and gentlemen, please join me in raising a toast to the bride and groom. Long may their love and happiness last. Cheers.

I find as far as toasts go, short ones are the best.

That should cover everything that you need to know on writing a maid of honour’s speech.

If you do get stuck then you could try leaving a message on the forum and one of the readers or writers may get back to you.


Published On: 26th Jul 2007

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  1. Can you guys help me as soon as possible for a speech the wedding is this zaturday and i don’t know what to say!! writing and finding a speech is something, but to say it is another story! on that side I think I’m gonna need some help too,please; Thank you!!

    christina 20 Aug at 6:19 pm
  2. These are excellent guideline you have provided here for the maid of honor to use in preparing her speech. Thank you so much for sharing this.

    Adam 9 Sep at 3:23 pm
  3. Hi there,
    my dad and step mum are getting married and i am a bridesmaid. I am 15 and i was wondering if you had any ideas as i am young and all the speeches are about the maid of honour being friends with the bride but this time she is going to be my step mum so please Help!!!!


    Bethany 24 Apr at 10:03 am
  4. That’s abeautifully written speech.
    To write a speech like this one,you need to change your views about public speaking.If you think it is a bizarre thing to do,you might be worried about it.Cast your sights on success and success will come you. What’s more it imprints in your mind a can do it attitude and a sterling performance.

    You should also set goals for your speech. What is it you want your speech to achieve?To make people laugh,cry(emotional)or even respond to you by saying to others how witty you are.This helps you choose a style that is unique to you.

    Set days and time to write the speech. A quiet place is proven to unleash powerful ideas.

    JeanDan 6 Nov at 11:26 pm
  5. I have the honor of speaker at my goddaughters wedding, I don’t know her future husband that well, I am really struggling with this and hope you can help. She is a kind, caring and loyal girl with a heart of gold. Any help would be greatly appreciated, thank you.

    W. Marriott 16 Jul at 8:20 pm