Suicide – Eulogy Funeral Poem

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Suicide – Eulogy Funeral Poem

Suicide – Eulogy Funeral Poem

A new poem has been written that is suitable for the eulogy of someone who took their own life. It is always difficult to know what to say in such circumstances, so I hope this will help through those difficult times.

No one knew the torment,
that you were going through;
We only kept on seeing
What we really wanted to.

We saw the outward smile,
but not your inner pain;
We never really dreamt,
That you would never smile again.

Forgive us if we failed to see,
What we could do to aid;
Or if we failed to comprehend,
How much you were afraid.

We pray your mental anguish,
Will now forever cease;
And that your deep anxieties,
Will be replaced by peace.

We know your pain invaded,
Every single thought you had;
It made you cry internally,
And deeply, deeply sad.

But we in turn remember,
The good times, not the bad;
We remember when you smiled at us,
And not when you were sad.

So when we think about your life,
We won’t dwell upon its close;
We’ll remember all the good times,
And forget about life’s blows.

We’ll remember all the happiness,
The joy and not the tears;
The assurance and the confidence,
And not irrational fears.

Our lives have all been better,
Because you have been there;
So now we leave your memory,
In God’s all-loving care.

(c) 2008 Dick Underwood

Thank you so much for this.

God Bless You.

Timely answer to my need

Thank you for this poem. I will share it this morning at a memorial service for my dear friend Scott, who took his life last week on his 56th birthday. This is a time when words don’t quite meet the challenge, but yours are well-crafted to sum up many of the torturous emotions.
Thank you.

Eulogy for a suicide

I found the poem on this site very helpful and modified and shortened it slightly. Others may find this useful if faced with preparing a eulogy for a person that took their own life

Dear Brian –

No one seemed to notice
What you were going through;
We all just kept on seeing
The man we wanted to.

If we did not see
The pain that you were in
Or ask, or offer help
Forgive us for that sin.

Now we know your worries
Crease your brow no more
And your spirit rests in peace
Upon that distant shore.

And we in turn remember
The good times, not the bad:
We remember when you laughed with us,
Not when you were sad.

And laugh – we laughed often
For good times there were plenty
With jokes and songs and beer and wine
And a glass that was never empty

Like all the best friendships
Most valued when you win them,
Our lives have been the richer
Because you have been in them.

Good-bye, Brian, God Bless and Godspeed.


Its never easy to accept such a death however this poem is somehow very compforting.
A heartfelt thankyou

suicide poem

My son died by suicide in December. This poem sooo fits the way I felt and it comforted me. It helped me to understand that we don’t always know how a person is feeling and how they just wanted to stop hurting.
Thank you


Published On: 24th Oct 2015

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  1. Thank you so much for this beautiful poem. My daughter took her own life in Sept 24th 2016. We want people to be aware of how she passed. When we read this poem it was perfect. We used this poem in place of a prayer on the inside of in loving memory card, along with her obituary. My daughters name was Madyson “Mady” Carolyn Redpath-Kirkwood.

    Sarah Wylene 19 Oct at 3:44 am
  2. Thanks and God bless.I could not find the words to express how i was feeling till i read this poem,It really hit home. I read it at my dads funeral and it really comforted the whole family. I cant thank you enough, i had no idea what i was going to say and the poem was perfect.

    Steve Shepard 8 Oct at 8:26 am
  3. I will read your poem at my dear Nephews funeral on the 13th Feb, it says all the things I want to say. He took his own life at 38, we are all so devasted. Thankyou for the beautiful poem.

    Elizabeth Coutts 4 Feb at 6:01 pm
  4. Thank you for sharing your beautiful poem. Sadly, my husband’s son took his own life at 37. I wasn’t sure what I will say at the graveside service until now. Your poem expresses our feelings exactly. It was so comforting when I read it. I’m sure when I read it to our family and friends, they will find comfort from it too.

    Cheryn Brant 9 Sep at 7:47 pm
  5. First of all, I am sorry for your loss. Your poems really touched me.
    Thank you for these poems which I hope to read at our son’s Eulogy. I know they will touch the lives of my husband, myself, our children and their mom, and the rest of our family consisting of aunts, uncles and cousins and all the friends our son has made over his short lifetime. So much more should be done for the mentally ill. If our son felt he could not talk to us, I would have hoped there was another avenue for him to seek strength and overcome the demons that plagued him through his life. I though he was on his medication till my husband told me he was dead. I know how fragile our boy was and my husband is now beating himself up that he should have known something was wrong but we did not find out until shortly before he took his own life.

    Cathy Bernadou Kramer 22 Sep at 9:29 pm
  6. This is the most amazing poem, it sums up everything I want to say at my darling son’s funeral. He took his own life recently at the age of 37, I just hope I am strong enough to read it until the end.

    Thank you for sharing it.

    Karen Antoniou 31 Oct at 5:00 pm