How to write a Best Man’s Speech

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Writing a best man’s speech is easier than you may think. In this short ‘manual’, if you like, I will take you through all you need to write a great best man’s speech.

[If you are really pressed for time click on our “fill-in-the-blanks Best Man Speech Example”]

When I write a best man’s speech, I always picture a close friend with his partner. Obviously you will have these people in mind. The first thing I do is make a list of things that I need to include, these are

  • Dates – how long have they been together, how long have they known each other?
  • Background of his wife to be. Although your speech is not about her, you must give her a paragraph. In this paragraph you say what she is like and how she makes your friend feel.
  • What they want from life and their relationship.

These few points are essential. As funny as you make your speech you must add real events that have happened (the points above).

The next few points you need are down to you as the best man. You need to write down these points along with the ones above.

  • A funny story. An essential in a best man’s speech. But there are a few rules you must obey. Firstly, ex-girlfriends are not out of bounds but no gory details, if you know what I mean. If you can, avoid them. Try to make the story between 150 and 300 words. Any less than this, and the story will be too vague, any more and it runs the risk of being too long and dragging to the extent of boredom. Finally the story has to be real, if you make it up, the groom and those who know him will find out, which could lead to a tricky situation.
  • What is your friend like as a friend, as a partner to his wife to be, and as a man? For example is he a hard worker, romantic etc?
  • The final two things you need to write are these. What has he achieved in his life, in love with his wife to be? And in his working life, school to work? And secondly how do you want to see him in a year’s time? Kids, a promotion at work, things like that. Also add after these points that you haven’t forgot about his new wife, but that you know they will be together for a lot longer than a year.

After you have got all this information there is a set way that you must write it and say it. If you follow the guide-lined layout, inserting your information, your speech will be close to completion. After you have finished writing in your information, give it to a friend to read. Watch them read it. It is harder to laugh while reading funny material so if they laugh, you have cracked it. If they like it, you are finished. The layout is below for you to follow.

Good luck with your writing. I am sure you will do great.

  • Firstly thank the groom for his speech, and the father of the bride for his. Also thank all for attending.
  • Give up a toast for the pair of parents. And say thank you to them on behalf of the bride and groom.
  • The bride and groom as a couple. What they are like together, etc.
  • Tell the story of your friend, the funny one. Put real emotion into this to get the best laughs.
  • What he is like, and what he has achieved. Love and life.
  • The bride. What she is like and what impact she has made on his life.
  • The final toast. Just a quick mention to wish them all the best.

Written by the Presentation Helper speech writer – Ryan Marshall

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Published On: 30th Jul 2007

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  1. Very helpful thanks

    Ishi 5 Jul at 12:49 am
  2. this has been so helpful. its not a cut and paste one, which takes all the work out of it and theres plenty of room for your own work and emotions in it. its a great template and i’m so glad i found it

    Jay 9 Jul at 12:13 am
  3. Thank you for your tips and help. I’m nervous but with this help hope it makes it easier – all the way from Sydney Australia

    Mark C 10 Jul at 1:22 pm
  4. cheers for the help im so nervos over the wedding an after reading your website its set me on me way so now i can get drunk before my speech NOT LOL, nah but thanx a lot for the help , from liverpool uk

    big john 12 Jul at 6:59 pm
  5. From my own experience when I was asked to be a best man, I thought yes what an honour but then, oh no, the speech. Luckily I could write poetry, so I wrote a poem and also luckily I hit the jackpot, it went down a storm, it was perfect and I had accolades all night from lots of guests and photographers.

    The beauty of a personalised poem is the fact it is personal, you can read it, and given time to practice, it can be delivered in a meaningful way and last but not least, you don’t have to let on it wasn’t you who wrote it!! But the real beauty is it is a comfort to the best man in case of emergencies; panic attack, too much to drink, etc.

    ThePoet 15 Jul at 3:06 pm
  6. you saved my life, thank you!!!!

    shrek 27 Jul at 1:04 am
  7. thank you sooo much I’m not a big speakeer around a group of people but when I found out I was speaking in front of 300 people I bricked it! uve made it so much easier thou thanks =0)

    ADAM 23 Aug at 9:24 am
  8. thanks for your words of wisdom. as a young best man at my dads wedding its helped me to actually realise what to include in a speech! and is better than those websites which tell you what to write word for word as i can now easily make it personal, yet with a good structure. many thanks.

    Luke 7 Sep at 2:24 pm
  9. Yes very helpful never done this before gave me some useful tips and hints thanks….

    T.Crosbie 10 Sep at 2:42 am
  10. time will tell if it helps, hopefully

    big gaz 10 Sep at 8:28 pm
  11. Thanks , this looks great i am crapping myself but im sure with gr8 template like this and a bit of thought i wont go wrong!!


    Lindt -SA 13 Sep at 10:17 pm
  12. Thanx for the helpful insight. this is my first best man speech and i’m kinda nervous. great info and direction.

    Will Vasquez 18 Sep at 9:07 pm
  13. problem is solved.

    thank you.

    Moses 24 Sep at 5:53 pm
  14. Your Website was very useful, helped me a lot. Thank you!!

    Allen Beck 4 Oct at 9:05 am
  15. I found the layout provided an excellent tool to found the basis of my speech. I am very grateful for the tools and help provided.

    James Spalding 9 Oct at 4:43 am
  16. A very honest and helpful approach – thank you very much for making this freely available.

    jason 30 Oct at 12:46 pm
  17. thanks for all the help. I ahve to write a best man’s speech in Japanese and as I didn’t even know how to do it in English I panicked, but thanks to this site I have a clearer idea of what to include. Greetings for Tokyo!

    AJ currently in Japan 5 Nov at 4:19 am
  18. Thank you.

    Jason 22 Nov at 2:37 am
  19. Thx for the good ideas !!

    Fred from Belgium 14 Dec at 6:22 pm
  20. This was helpful. I dont like to follow templates but it offered some good tips that lead to good stories for my speech

    Anonymous 27 Dec at 7:28 pm
  21. thank you

    tefa 29 Dec at 12:27 am
  22. thanks a million guys you really helped me out as it was my first time with such a task i gain a great amount of knowledge from you THANKS(Jamaica)

    marlon 7 Jan at 7:37 pm
  23. Perfect description of what’s needed! I was told 9 months ago this was my job and I’m only getting to it with 3 days to go! I had no clue until I came here

    McGuffin 15 Jan at 6:30 pm
  24. isabel got married in the summer and if it wern’t for this guide i would not have been able to write the speech…yes…it was a lesbian wedding

    aisha lawrence 21 Jan at 2:11 pm
  25. Hai,

    this is Rohini , i am working in Mnc That is Airtel Communocations ,

    And recently i am having Presentation in my company so please help me out to give a best presentation in first job career

    Rohini 24 Jan at 2:48 pm
  26. I am pretty nervous…but thanks for the template. Best of luck to everyone.

    Martin 2 Feb at 3:41 pm
  27. thank you for the structure & good tips. you have gave me that added confidence with your honesty. hope it sticks. & good luck to all. stay away from the drink.

    jim 3 Feb at 6:39 pm
  28. Cheers Buddy. Just remember to visit the bog before the speeches.

    Neil 5 Feb at 1:21 am
  29. Great stuff. I’ve read a lot of stuff on the bast man’s speech and this has been the best, most to the point piece I’ve read. Thanks.


    Liam 7 Feb at 1:25 pm
  30. thanks very much for the help. succinct and just what you need. writing as a female (sister of the bride and not a lezzer) quite difficult to do best man speech, so simple instructions very welcome – good “bloke language”!

    nicola hamon 10 Feb at 8:25 pm
  31. Speech Tips for the Best Man

    You are expected to be funny, and perhaps even a little rude.
    But don’t get too carried away.
    There is nothing worse than a best man who lurches from one story of debauchery to another.
    And Grandma Margaret is unlikely to take great joy in the finer details of the stag-do in Amsterdam.
    The key is to allude to the dirty and debauched past without embarrassing either the groom, the bride or yourself.
    Remember that you are there to entertain the entire audience and not just your fellow stags.

    Which means:
    1. Try to reference each stage of his life
    2. Illustrate what a great effect his bride has had on him
    3. Thank him for being such a great friend and say some nice things about him too


    Talk slowly. If it takes 12 minutes, not nine, it doesn’t matter at all.
    Pause for effect. Your audience need time to digest the story before they get the punchline. So give them time to get it.
    Emphasise key words. Imagine you’re telling a story to a friend.
    Practise. However well written the speech, you don’t want to be ‘reading’ it. Know it well enough that your notes just become a safety net.
    Gesticulate. Body language is vital. Use your arms to emphasise a point.
    If you’re addressing someone, look at them. Try to make eye contact with your audience whenever you can.


    Be put off by a heckle. You can pre-prepare a couple of responses to a noisy member of the crowd.
    Give in to the shakes. Holding a shaky piece of paper will put you off before you get going. Paste your speech onto card. Or rest it somewhere you can see it. Find out if there’s a lectern.
    Get drunk beforehand. It may feel like the easy way to get through it, but it won’t seem so sensible afterwards.
    Just read it out. Great material is irrelevant if it’s delivered badly. You’ll be much more natural when you’re not reading straight from the page.

    Lawrence 27 Feb at 4:45 pm
  32. Thanks for the advice I dont know what people did before websites like this where around, I had no idea of how to present my speech or the order in which to do it very helpful cheers!

    Mark Rae 16 Mar at 4:39 pm
  33. Thanks, this is just what I needed to get me started. I had thought about just “winging” it on the day but Im so glad I looked at your website because the worry of making a speech was starting to ruin the whole thing for me. Now that I have a speech written down in front of me I can start to relax a bit. Thank you again your a real God send.

    Jason Drew 21 Mar at 2:16 am
  34. This a great. Thanks for the tips. Think this will help a lot.

    Dave Carter 29 Mar at 12:05 pm
  35. Nervous as hell, but this should help. Fingers crossed.

    Neil Marsh 31 Mar at 9:26 pm
  36. im more nervous than me bro on the big day but this is very useful thanks… wish me luck 😀

    Wayne 2 Apr at 5:39 pm
  37. My son has panicked – so asked his dear old mum. This is just what he needed. So a great big thank you goes to you. It is perfect – just enough of a guide to build on. Wonderful. Thank you x

    Shirley 13 Apr at 7:03 am
  38. very helpfull. thanks.

    john 13 Apr at 6:12 pm
  39. some very intersting stuff nice to see an outline and guidance for a quality speech rather than cheap jokes. Thanks very much, R

    rob 7 May at 11:58 pm
  40. oh man you saved me from the rattle snakes! at first i was so scared to death thinking about this speach i will make.. so scarred i cant even think! LOL thank you so much!

    seevee 14 May at 12:30 pm
  41. this is real helpful, am pretty much use to talking in front of large audiences, as i play guitar and vocals in a band, but didn’t av a clue how to shape a speech- really useful advice here!
    was very nervous about having to make a speech (the bride is my sister, and i’m going to be the grooms best man- so obviously i know more about the bride than the groom), thankfully this template has really helped!

    Andy in Barnsley

    Andy 20 May at 9:48 am
  42. Time will tell but its taken a massive weight off my shoulders!!

    Now the work begins…

    Anonymous 21 May at 12:22 pm
  43. thankyou this has got me off on the right foot!

    Anonymous 3 Jun at 7:29 pm
  44. Many thanks for the advice and ideas, as well as how to structure the speech, given me a great starting point, Thank you again

    Paul 6 Jun at 1:45 pm
  45. thanks for this site would like to say tht i was given the opertunity to be the best man for my sisters partner today(12/06/08) but will not be done until july but have looked on this site and found it rather helpful will get back to you when i have done it:-):-) thanks again.

    gareth 12 Jun at 9:04 pm
  46. The guidelines were very usefull, thanks!!

    Gihan 13 Jun at 4:16 am
  47. Spot on–Just what I needed a template listing what I should include with gaps for comedy etc-cheers

    Terry , Kent 16 Jun at 5:10 pm
  48. thanx. what a great site. Now i have some idea of what i need to include!!!!

    Nick. 24 Jun at 1:00 pm

    Ras..P 24 Jun at 10:48 pm
  50. Very helpfully thanks very much

    Alan, Caithness 29 Jun at 11:34 am
  51. thanks too much!

    Hey man!

    You saves my life.

    Tomorrow my presentation!


    Wish me lucky man!

    valent 6 Jul at 7:24 am
  52. your a star you’ve taken all the stress away cheers
    dont need luck now!!

    cockney d 16 Jul at 8:19 pm
  53. I had plenty of ideas floating around in my head and i found the structure extremely helpful. Thanks a lot!!

    Big Dave 17 Jul at 7:39 pm
  54. I Done my best man speech at the weekend ther, it went down really well thanks to the advice from the site. Structure, content etc. I had planned to adlib on the day, but glad i found this page to plan it! Goodluck to any-one writing ther speech!

    Paul 21 Aug at 6:15 pm
  55. You kno iv’e trailed the internet for months with not much to show untill today by chance i came across your site,Thankyou,thankyou,thankyou iv’e found peace and surely i will sleep tonight as i havent even had a blink of sleep for weeks wracked with worry,public speaking ?who ever started it.

    matthews 1 Sep at 7:09 pm
  56. Cheers. This is a great guide and has been really useful. Fingers crossed that I don’t muck up on the day!

    Jeremy 2 Sep at 4:43 pm
  57. Definately a helping hand, im best man in November and really nervous.
    This has certainly put my mind at rest.
    Im sure i can create a good speech now.!

    Jordan 10 Sep at 8:04 pm
  58. hiya i have been asked to do best man for my older brother , am only 20 am shy dnt have a clue what to talk about lol anyone can help send sum comments cheers

    paul patrick 9 Oct at 8:26 pm
  59. Truly an amazing page of information, I could not have complete my speeche without this bit of information. One Love!

    JASON-JAMAICA 27 Oct at 3:30 pm
  60. It is so nice of the people who have thought to put the ideas for others’ help in improving their public speaking.

    VAIBHAV 3 Nov at 6:41 pm
  61. VERY LONG.,,,,,,,,,,

    Anonymous 17 Nov at 9:28 am
  62. nice one, now i know what the hell i gotta write about. soo helpful!!!

    aceomondo 9 Dec at 11:09 pm
  63. it was really long

    mini 31 Dec at 9:50 am
  64. Thanks.. the guide you give here was very useful to me… Many thanks…


    it went down very well with the audience 🙂

    Rob 5 Jan at 2:22 am
  65. Thank you for your help… It was really useful!!!

    From Pakistan,

    Abdul Rashid

    Abdul Rashid 27 Feb at 12:12 pm
  66. Very detailed instructions. Thank you. I would add that you should always think about your audience when writing a speech. What would they want to hear, what could surprise them, what would they consider funny/offensive? If you think about your audience first the speech can be nothing other than a smashing success.

    How to Write a Speech 19 Mar at 4:53 pm
  67. Yes this was very helpfull as i never have had a chance to do a speech, i needed no help to right my story as thats the easy bit but the filling in bits made the hard bits become as easy. thanks

    chris 26 Mar at 11:33 am
  68. You sure are genius. I had a tough time at my last assignment as a B-man. But i hope subsequent ones will shine.

    Release more filla bro!

    papajerry 30 Mar at 2:04 pm
  69. Hey, thanks for the tips! I am my brother’s best ‘man’ in June and am terrified but am hoping this will help,

    thanks again!
    Christchurch. NZ

    Sasha 🙂 xxx

    Sasha 31 Mar at 6:18 am
  70. Thanks for making this available for us to see, it’s just what i needed to get me started!

    Thanks Again, Lee
    (Sheffield, UK)

    Lee 13 Apr at 3:12 pm
  71. thanks for the tips. still quite nervous though 😉

    alex 14 Apr at 8:15 pm
  72. great advice! still a bit nervous but this should help out loads!

    David 25 Apr at 2:44 pm
  73. Thanks for the structure, it was just what I was looking for. Most other websites just have rehashed jokes that everyone uses. I did the main speech at my own wedding (the best man was too nervous), and now I’m the best man at the wedding of one of my brothers in two weeks. The advice here has given me just what I needed to get me started.

    Charger 10 May at 3:42 pm
  74. thanks for the feedback it has been gr8 sittn here readn ur layout not so nervous now cheers

    brian 21 May at 3:27 am
  75. This format places heavy emphasis on being humourous; I think it is FAR more important just to be yourself. The advice on wikihow was far more appropriate! There is little I would use from this advice, but good luck to all the budding comedians out there.

    Aye 1 Jun at 3:24 pm
  76. I’m drinking and its 2 hours before the big speech. This website was short and sweet. Be sure to keep this up with the guys in this situation in the future! It was very helpful.

    Joe Z. 20 Jun at 8:09 pm
  77. Thanx so much…..i did not have a structure to work through…I have now ,and what I like is that your format is not complicated…it is easy to work to and enbles a lot of freedom within it….four days to go …I will let you know how it went…..kindest regards ….Michael.

    michael dixon 15 Jul at 8:44 pm
  78. Perfect… I was honoured to be best man for a great friend 5 years ago and went through the stresses of everything for the first time then. It went like a dream after a lot of hard work so I thought it would be a breeze this time round for my brother’s wedding next week, but I got serious writers block today when it came to the structure of the speech… Thank you for your simple yet hugely effective guidance.

    Englishman in Cyprus 26 Jul at 7:06 pm
  79. Dude, i’m 14 and my dads asked me to be best man. its tough, but cheers for the advice, very helpful :]

    Anonymous 13 Aug at 10:11 am
  80. nice one!!! helped me out loads…. went down really well!!!

    James 20 Aug at 6:26 pm
  81. Thank you,

    Fantastic advice.
    Very very helpful.

    Thanks again

    tony t 20 Aug at 6:36 pm
  82. I particularly like the idea of giving a toast to the parents, I began my best mans speech with a toast to them.
    In most speeches the parents are not specifically thanked in a toast and I feel they should due to the awesome amount of effort they will have made to make the day possible.

    Wedding Speech 22 Aug at 5:55 pm
  83. This is one of the most helpful tips that I’ve read about in writing a best man’s speech. Thanks for sharing.

    Adam 27 Aug at 2:52 pm
  84. Exellent source. We used this last year when hubby was Best Man for his friend and now again this year as he is Best Man for his brother. Handy outline which allows for creativity but helps keep it structured. Gracias!

    Helena 9 Sep at 8:52 am
  85. Props work as a great addition to Best Man speeches so don’t be afraid to use them in your Best Man speech.

    Best Man Speeches 28 Oct at 6:01 pm
  86. Very interesting, I have just wrote the perfect speech for Adam and Sarah’s wedding.

    Phil 15 Nov at 2:03 am
  87. this powerpoint can make me learn something new!

    umi maisarah 19 Feb at 8:41 am
  88. thanks so much, i would have gone in the wrong direction if not for this page.

    tyrel 20 Feb at 4:24 pm
  89. hi this was a great help in preparing my speech for my pal andrew ‘pecker’ cadmans weddding,he spoke very little due to the excessive carling abuse,

    mark snaith 24 Feb at 4:22 pm
  90. Not very helpful i already knew all this

    bibby 4 Mar at 6:44 am
  91. This is one of the most helpful tips that I’ve read about in writing a best man’s speech. There are loads of ways to get a best man speech done well – it really shouldn’t be such a worry, because it’s one of the biggest honours you can ever receive.

    Daran 14 Apr at 11:13 am
  92. Very good, another tip I would add to Ryan’s great article is to offer the bride and groom advice on marriage. This can be a very funny element of your speech even if you are not married you can say something like ” As best man I am aware that offering marital advice is part of my speech, and given that I am not married I turned to the internet for advice,where I learned that as a married man there are only 4 words you need to know – “you are right dear” or similar.

    Best Man App 17 May at 10:20 am
  93. great info only had 2 days didn’t know where to start many thanks my speech would have draged many thanks

    will felgate 10 Jun at 9:14 pm
  94. Lawrence’s dos and don’ts are, I think, pretty comprehensive. I think the main one, though, is about length. Keeping the speech between 5-10 minutes on paper, and then taking your time delivering it on the day. When Lawrence wrote a speech for me once, he typeset it onto prompt cards, which was extremely useful for the pace of the speech. (Also, card doesn’t shake as noticeably as paper if you get nervous!)

    Brad 26 Jul at 2:37 pm
  95. very helpful thanks!. Left it till last minute to write, and didnt know where to start but thanks to this site it now looks something like a speech!

    ste 2 Aug at 9:42 pm
  96. Absolutely nailed it due to the tips this site gave!
    Got the formalities out of the way, then followed the recommended structure, threw in a few funnies & had the Bride, Groom & guests rolling round on the floor with laughter!
    Tip to anyone… don’t stress about the speech, it’s not about you. Get stuck into early so you’ve got plenty of time & don’t forget to say lots of nice stuff!
    Enjoy it, it should be an honour & a pleasure!

    Eddie G 16 Sep at 9:12 am
  97. Excellent reference material. Thanks for the helpful bullet points.

    Tom 5 Oct at 6:26 am
  98. Thx

    Anonymous 5 Oct at 7:57 am
  99. lifesaver

    joe 29 Oct at 5:31 am
  100. Many thanks for this… very helpful

    stuart 6 Dec at 5:47 pm
  101. Very helpful layout. Great way to hav it layed out so I don’t stress and go blank! Haha. Thanks again
    Melbourne Australia

    Devin 28 Jan at 12:21 pm
  102. Wow this was so helpful thank you…

    Sipho 9 Mar at 2:30 pm
  103. This was very helpful, thank you very much 🙂

    Matthew Pearce 31 Jul at 9:59 pm
  104. Thank you so much for writing this guide. I’ve been reading best man speech help sites all day and this one small page is by far the best writing guide I’ve found.

    Jamethon 10 Jun at 9:09 am
  105. This has been a great way to make a speech. I only wish I had found this site before the day of the wedding. But nonetheless it helped me very much. Thanks for all the help and advice.

    Timothy mccants 13 Jun at 5:20 pm
  106. thank you now i’m more nervous than before, wow you all make this seem so easy! but it can be done a couple of tequila shots (not), thank you for the help!

    francisco 27 Jul at 11:02 pm